Dad Abandoned By Family At 21. TWO YEARS LATER, THIS MIRACLE Happens

THE MIRACLE OF A VERY PAINFUL JOURNEY

Dealing with the loss of a family member is always a daunting task, one that leaves the affected with more questions than answers. Two years ago, one family experienced perhaps the most challenging and tragic series of events imaginable when the mother of the family, who was very close to her children, succumbed to a very aggressive form of lung cancer that was initially recognized in a small, nagging cough.

As the family prepares to give their mom the care she needed, little did they know that this would be the start of a rollercoaster of emotions. She checked into the hospital on a Monday, oblivious of the fact that this wasn’t going to be just another hospital visit.

By the end of the week, the family began to experience what can only be described as the darkest and most traumatic moments in their lives – the loss of their beloved mother. The pain was only aggravated by the aggressiveness with which the cancer spread, hence, rendering any possible treatments ineffective. Perhaps this made the loss harder to take, knowing that it had happened so suddenly. Often in times of sorrow, what the family needs is love, compassion, and support from loved ones. In this case, the family was bracing for just that, or so they thought.

There’s an old saying that goes, ‘When the chips are down, you find who your friends and family are.’ When they entered the hospital on that fateful day, the family must have anticipated that they would receive support from all corners of the family – from all the relatives and probably friends who the mother had touched by her no-doubt good character. After all, it is during times of sorrow that one realizes how good the lost person was.

The opposite happened. The family felt let down and disheartened by the complete lack of support from their loved ones. When the need for a little bit of love and support was all the family was asking for, or needed, as far as the preparation and grieving were concerned, nothing was available. The relatives and friends were missing – it was if nothing was wrong. They were nowhere close – in proximity, attention, prayers, nothing.

A family thrown in the dark – and the impact it had on them

The pain of losing a loving mother could have been mitigated by the care and support of loved ones, thrown by the lack of it. the loss of the mother started to sink in that the road ahead would be solo in terms of grieving and, probably, caring for the father. As the mother finally breathed her last, the whole house was thrown in a mix of confusion and pain – with the deceased had been that window of hope that all families have, it was clear that her death would also bring financial strain, so emotional pain soon started to spread across, making everyone feel hopeless, or so they thought.

However, time made the family get used to the situation. At one point, since not much could be done anyway, a decision had to be made, and that decision had one thing missing in every bit of it – the family members who could never come close to anything the deceased meant to the family. It could now all be different, or rather should probably be – and still they weren’t.

What you can learn from this tragedy

First, make do with the hand you’ve been dealt. Even in the most painful situations, all is not lost – it is possible to pick the pieces and try to rebuild, and there will always be family left, or probably just friends, to try to become their everything – even to take their relatives’ spots if this latter category keeps dodging your knocks and prayers.

Second, death is an illusion of our own creation. We call the end our loved one’s death because they had the ability to communicate, something that was severed when they died. Ultimately, their memories and other impacts on us (which, in this case, is a mother) live, a great example of what matters most in life – the bits that truly matter in the first instance, these could probably be named as the actions of mum who – never far from those she loved in life, probably so even in actions when she went.