His Ex-Wife's Shocking Behavior Sent My Relationship into a Tailspin!

DEAR ABBY: I am dating an older man with two ex-wives. I have met both of them. I don’t mind them. The last ex-wife and I get along. She usually calls me because he won’t answer his phone for her. The first ex-wife I don’t like at all (I used to talk to her) because she likes to stir the pot and make my life with my boyfriend difficult.

Things seem to escalate with her whenever I’m in a good place in my life. She tries to get under my skin by making condescending comments about my relationship and my boyfriend. I have tried telling her I won’t engage with her negativity, but it seems to only egg her on.

My boyfriend knows about her behavior but doesn’t know what to do. He feels like he has to tread lightly because they have history together. I think it would be best if we cut ties with her entirely. He thinks I’m being too sensitive. I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or what the right thing to do is.

Our relationship has hit a snag, and I feel like his passiveness where she’s concerned is a part of the reason why. Am I just being dramatic or should he stand up to her for once? I don’t want to start any unnecessary drama, but I also don’t want to continue to be disrespected by someone who shouldn’t be involved in my life in the first place.